Monday, November 20, 2006

Kids & Old Age - Any Connection?


The following dialogue has been simplified and exaggerated 3-4x...

Not too long ago...

Friend: Ei, why you don't you get married & have kids?
Me: Eh?? *puzzled*
Friend: Yeah, have kids.
Me: WHY must have kids ahhh?
Friend: Ei, if you don't have kids, who's gonna take care of you when you grow old next time?? Har? Har??
Me: EHHH???

10 seconds later...

Me: Ei, I can check myself into the senior citizens' home what... nowadays got alot of these homes around... there are even Funeral Services Packages offered by Nirvana! (which incidentally, I just checked, it's not cheap, okay! Prices start from RM21,800.) So, I don't need kids lah...

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So, please tell me if I'm wrong anywhere...

79 comments:

frostier said...

er.
we can call u lou ku poh nia.

frostier said...

spinster!!

angel said...

Mr. Frostier, if you've got no useful input to offer, just keep your mouth shut and no one will say you are dumb, okay?
Oh, same to you too! And, no Brownie Points for you.

angel said...

202.186.33.121, this is at which internet cafe, eh?

may said...

red red nano chuppppp!!!

may said...

nope, you're not wrong. remember, we're all supposed to book ourselves a spot at the HO KWAI FAAN™ Retirement Home liao!! or was it igloo? or castle? or teepee? I forget...

angel said...

Dear may,...
Red Nano Nano Pratinum it is! ;)

Hahaha!! Oh yaaa!! How could I hv forgotten our HO KWAI FAAN™ Retirement Home/Castle!!! Yes yes... thanks for the reminder! Liuliu bad memory liao... :P

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*while waiting for the next person to comment... goes for a pee*

Chen said...

mmmmmm.......

Anonymous said...

lick angel jie jie's face

Anonymous said...

not necessarily to have kids mah..
dog is good too..
like ah boy :)
so cute & so adorable..

Woof

Chen said...

u r not wrong..
not wrong at all :)

kids nowadays not necessarily will take care of their parents.. ;)

angel said...

Dear lokter,...
Grolden mmmm Chup!

Anddd???

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Dear ah boy,...
Srilver Lick Lick!
TQ for the Lickos!
*go wash face first*

Haha.. yes yes, a dog is good too.. but hor, if i get a dog, some liuliu people gonna liu me leh... how liddat??

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Dear lokter,...
Waa... your ahboy so pannai gib comment wan... *amazed*
What u feed him arr? :P

TQ for note! Yeah hor, how come I didn't think of that before? Hmmm... must be I half brain dead liao...

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Inevitable said...

Hey, how are you?

angel said...

Dear inevitable,...
Ehhh... I'm good arr... though was not too 'fit' last week... but now gettin' better :)

Kenny Ng said...

y ler? got kids nice ma... i dunno la, i love kids.

nyonyapenang said...

my fren told me to go check out one Seronok Home. got kids oso, no garenti they'll look after me.

siapa cakap lu salah? gua kasi 'piak' sama dia.

angel said...

Dear kenny,...
Aisay kenny! You missed my point! I did not say that I don't like kids. Before having any kids, first, we must find me a Hao Nan Ren, who's gonna be absolutely Mr. Perfect in my eyes, and which is currently Not Available anywhere near Yours Truly. Well, okay, I exaggerate abit about the Mr. Perfect :P

Anyway, what I'm saying is that I don't think we need kids just because we want someone to look after us in our old age and if that's the reason people have kids, then I have nothing to say except To Each His Own Opinion... beng peik bo?

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Dear nyonya,...
Haha! Apa itu Seronok Home? Happy Home? Exciting Home? *LOL* Gua mya transration tsk tsk tsk!

Well, nobody said gua salah... just that maybe they 'imply' gua tak betul... tapi gua buat duh saja...

TQ for protecting me!
*sayang nyonya*
Hope your tummy can accept more food liao?

angel said...

Oh, another thing, nyonya, me thinks your boy-boys sure will jaga you wan next time... if they don't hor, i'll piak them! Hmmphh!!

Hehe...

Anonymous said...

angliuliu ... i think it's time lah ... go find ur Mr Perfectliu ...

Anonymous said...

Ah Boy eats pedigree dog food..
but ah boy prefers eating human food..
like sio tu bak, char siu, char koay teow, spaghetti etc..

angel said...

Dear moz,...
Why u call me angliuliu?? Since when I change surname ner?? :(

If there were a Mr. Perfect for angel, he'd sweep me off my feet. ;)

Kenot dream izit? :P

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Dear ah boy,...
WAA! For one moment, I thot u said u prefer to eat human as food! Terkejut me! LOL!

Waa, so ngam wan.. I oso like those food! So long nvr eat sio tu bak liao...

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King's wife said...

cheh! Having kids also doesnt guarantee that they'll look after you when u are old mah. All those old folks in the retirement homes are childless meh?

mistipurple said...

i oso shocked read wrongly Ah Boy want to eat human food. lol
ya, children no guarantee. more likely have to look after them even when they turn adults. but anyway, got some lucky ones who have filial kids. so, very hard to say lah. my baby making factory closed already anyway. :P

angel said...

Dear king's wife,...
Actually hor, very sien isn't it? Old liao need other ppl to jaga us... the most important thing is that we be strong and healthy, isn't it? Then no need to rely so much on others...

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Dear misti,...
Haha! So my eyesight no problem... :P

Your factory closed already? Sure bo? Can try reopen and see how? *wink wink*

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*off to bedzzz*

Cocka Doodle said...

You want kids let me know. I can donate sperm. LOL

Simple American said...

Why people always do this? Just be happy Angel. Everything else happens when/if it happens.

L B said...

Starting from RM21,800?!!!! My Gawd! I better go start saving now!! Sei lor! Sei lor!
Kids are only good for the BBQ pit.

mistipurple said...

LB wants to bbq kids? :P

mistipurple said...

factory cannot reopen. lost key.

dreamie said...

kids are a blessing in the union of a marriage, not as an insurance for old age.

i believe happiness comes in many ways.

liucas said...

liucas agrees with dreamie.

thats what i told mummy too. kids are not an insurance for old age. so mummy, go yak chiu!

may said...

ROTFL @ Liucas' comment to "mummy"!! *tsk tsk tsk*

Anonymous said...

So what's an insurance for old age?

Find an old, fugly but filthy rich man for husband?

;p

Hmmm... This post of yours have something to do with my new post today.

carcar said...

i'm eye-ing for a 'goo poh oak' now :(

scau said...

Angel,

You know me better than most people, maybe I may not be the best person to comment but I trust that you'll make time to read and ponder over my thoughts.

Having kids is one matter. The journey is another. The process involves a man you truly love and loves you in return. When you have kids, they are to complete a meaningful life. Of course this is subjective.

Most people I know yearn to have a good family, one they can grow old with and watch the kids evolve to adulthood. Of late, I see more of this because of my grand dad. Everytime I visit him, I can see the joy in his eyes. At his age, he has no request but time to be with close ones. I have thought that if I were at his age, I would like to have the same. Nothing much, just someone to come visit and talk.

In the same home, there are other old folks who stares into space. I know they have no one visiting them. They live a lonely life. Though there many be friends but they're not family. It's a huge difference.

It may not be obvious to you now. It becomes worst as you grow older. Unfortunately, women have a biological time clock. It drops like a rock after 35. Risk such as down syndrome increases exponentially after this age. This you should take note.

Look at it from the big picture. You may swim in the activities of the young like doing charity, visit friends, mamak, dinners, walk the dog, vacation, etc but nothing ever prepares you for old age. When it comes like a swift current, you look back and realise that time has passed you and space is all you have to hold.

Wouldn't it be better if there was a warm hand embracing you, whispering "Mom, I never grow tired in saying how much I love you and you are the BEST mom anyone could hope for" .... "I love you, mom".

That is what having kids is all about.

c o n s u e l a said...

don't worry, be happy.
even if we get married and have kids someday...there's no guarantee da kids will look after us old foggies...might still end up in some retirement home. I know they won't lah but you'll never know :P

so until then, maybe LTC insurance? *smirks*

tired_man said...

Hmmm....having kids is different from having someone look after u in yr old age. Times have changed and nowadays u need to be independent in retirement. I believe u have kids becos u want to have that experience (only if u are fortunate enough to even have any) and to share yr love. Of course, this isnt the only path in life, right? No obligation on them to look after us too.

Now...having a life companion, thats something else again. I am sure everyone has their own comments & ideas on this. :)

Winn said...

you have me:)

Lin Peh said...

If you no get marry but engine need service from time to time, please let Lin Peh know ;-)

angel said...

Allow me to reply to my friend first...

Dear scau,

You know, YOU are the one who should know me better after 10 years but how come YOU become the one who missed my point of this entry? (other than kenny, of course)

I have just written a long reply to your comment but I have just decided against it. Why? Because I feel it's no point... and I must say, I'm totally disappointed in your inability to comprehend my situation and my entry here.

So, I'm just gonna say this to you. To Each His Own Opinion.

Oh, and you mentioned about the Big Picture? Have you tried looking from MY perspective?

Enuff said... but thank you for your input anyway. It was much better that what Mr. Frostier up there had to offer.


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I'll be back to reply more later... Buzzzzy Day!!

Winn said...

*sayang angel*

had a bad day huh?

:)

sengkor said...

liucas, u think u r a kid meh? i tell u la, ur mummy's plan is to cook u for christmas..

angel, jom, belanja me aisklim again :P

sengkor said...
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liucas said...

mummy u sayang angel who sayang me??

want me to poopoo on ur bed again hai mou?

Winn said...

liucas ,mau makan eat aunty titoki mia shit is it?

Chen said...

angel jangan marah okie?
wanna drink ambla soi boi fruit juice?
my favourite leh..

Pink Cotton said...

AGREED!!!

who said must have children hah??? HAH?!?!!?

giggle...

cannot depend on children wan la....they also want their own life ma :P

angel said...

Dear cocka,...
Is that all you could offer?? That one, I can get it from the Sperm Bank lar...

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Dear Sir SA,...
I like the way you said it... Thank you so much!
* B I G B E A R Y H U G Z *

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Dear l b,...
Yes! RM21,800! I was shocked to see that figure too! Har? Save ar?
*contributes $1 into the fund*
BBQ Babes??
-__-"

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Dear misti,...
What did you do to him to make him wanna BBQ babys??
Lost factory keys?
*dangles a key in front of you*
Here it is... *wink wink*

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Dear dreamie,...
Wow... suddenly you sound so opposite of Moong Cha Cha!!! Are you the Female or Male wan??? I can't differentiate both of you! Haha!
But thank you for those words ;)

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Dear liucas,...
You sei liao. Your mummy is gonna chop you 18 pieces soon...

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Dear may,...
Oii!! U summore laff? If his mummy chop him 18 pieces then how?? Less one dog to lick us liao... :(

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Dear titoki,...
Why wanna find an old & fugly filthy rich hubby instead of a young & hensem filthy rich one?? The only insurance we need is $$$$$$$$$ :D

And yes, I totally understand your entry today... ;)

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Dear carcar,...
Errr... wat's goo poh oak? We aim togeder-geder for the HO KWAI FAN Bloggers' Retirement Castle, ok?! You are NOT going anywhere on your own, liu?!

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Dear scau,...
I read your liuliu long comment again and I wanna ask you, have YOU told your mom that you love her lately?

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Dear c o n s u e l a,...
Aloha!!! Hug hug!
So when are u gonna have a baby?? Oh wait, u must hv a Hawaiian wedding first! So that we have an excuse to make a trip there! Wheeeee!!!
*dreams away*

I'm a bit ignorant but what's LTC Insurance? -__-

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Dear tired_man,...
Firstly, thank you for voicing out your thoughts here! First Time, eh? Make yourself comfy.
But before that, why do you call yourself tired_man? Can you untired yourself? :( I feel so bad knowing you are 'tired' all the time...

About having kids, I don't think I'm gonna be that 'fortunate' in that department. Yes, I'm sure you'll agree that there are always two sides to a coin... and people say the grass is always greener on the other side. At times I agree, but at times, I don't. Once a baby comes along, parents will need to sacrifice a lot. At this point of time, life is good for yours truly and of course, life is not always UP. There will be the DOWN times but so far, I think I've managed it a-ok...

Incidentally, I would very much like to know your opinion about Lifetime Companion... care to share? :)

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Dear winn,...
Awwww... liuliu schweeet... I'll hv you, Liucas, lokter, ah boy, misti, lb, ah may, jessie, husky... carcar, titoki, sengkor, lil' joy, k & s... waaa so many! so hang fook! :D

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Dear lin peh,...
In return hor, I just need a condo & a car. Can anot??

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Dear winn,...
Tenkiu for sayang me... I feel so sayang-ed...
Today was a busy day... :)

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Dear sengkor,...
Ei, where got mummy cook their own kid wan?? Dun scare Liucas la... kesian oni...

Aisklim? Again ar? Bila?

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Dear liucas,...
Aiyooo... your mummy sayang u oso wan lar... she keep it in her heart oni maa... ALL of US also sayang u... we oso dun announce it everyday ma...

Please poopoo in the toilet, tenkiu! U are a good dog, kan?

Woof!

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Dear winn,...
LOL! Oh nooooooo!!!
Get that pic outta my mind!
*LOL*

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Dear lokter,...
angel no marah liao... just abit beh tahan nia... :)

Ambla soi boi?? Izit the wan that's sour sour salty salty drink??

*lao nua liao*

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Dear pink cotton,...
Who said arr? Actually hor... so paiseh to say, I dun remember which fren said that liao! Sei mou? Tsk tsk...
Ei, so nxt time, how many anak u want? Half dozen? One dozen? :P

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L B said...

I oso sayang you liuliu till you get babies.. Is that better than BBQ them?

L B said...

If we BBQ them, how much you think we can earn? $5 each? On the other hand, .... nevermind. Perish the thought of even wondering how much to produce each one first!

c o n s u e l a said...

hehe...not ignorant lah...sorrie...

LTC stands for long term care insurance :) similar with life insurance cuma this one caters and helps you financially if you masuk nursing home :)

mistipurple said...

everything in life unpredictable. husband whether remain faithful, children whether filial, nobody will know. even oneself, whether after many years in marriage, can keep marriage intact or not, cannot tell oso. so, take life as it comes and hope for the best only. i think in this line lah. ate quite a bit of salt already in this liuliu age of mine.

Winn said...

*sayang misti, wake up so early to wait for me*:)

L B said...

WAAAAAAAA!!!!! Misti so deep!

L B said...

Winn, don't forget to wake me up 7:30am, ok?

dreamie said...

aiyoo.. my remarks sound feminine ar? now i am looking at myself in the mirror and wondering ... kekeke

have a nice day, dear !
cheers !!!

zeroimpact said...

How to put it leh...
May be there is truth in either way...

angel said...

Dear l b,...
TQQQQQQQ for sayang me liuliu till I get babies but after get baby liao no sayang??

BBQ babies? U think got ppl will buy meh?? Prolly only in China...

Oh yeah... the cost of having one... damn, then I will never get my Fruit Toy liao!!

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Dear c o n s u e l a,...

Thanks for the education & link! I'm not sure if we hv it here... do we??

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Dear misti,...
Waa... u sound like you got married & had kids before wan...

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Dear winn,...
Why u oso wake up so early wan? Gunting bulu Liucas again ar?

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Dear l b,...
Misti is deeper than the deepest ocean...

7.30am? U oredi woke up wat...

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Dear dreamie,...
Haha! So tell me what did you see in the mirror? A lengjai or lenglui??
And u hv a great day too! ;)

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Dear zeroimpact,...
Errr... I lost la... which either way are you referring to?

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frostier said...

wakakaka..
u mentioned here
So, please tell me if I'm wrong anywhere...

So, i mah say it lor. from the bottom of my heart.

Anonymous said...

Maybe you should have asked your friend, 'Eh, if you got kids, who's gonna take care of you when you grow old next time?? Har? Har??'

Psstt... kids and old age got connection wan. Somebody told me kids make you old... -_-"

Anonymous said...

Sixty-one liaooo!!

angel said...

Dear mr. frostier,...
But you were so rude. No wonder you are .........

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Dear plink,...
Huh? What u saying? My fren got kids so I suppose she's depending on them to take care of her lor...

Oh dear... kids make us old? How liddat?

So are you aiming for misti's 69 too? ;)
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tired_man said...

Dear Angel

Thanks for your long response....am feeling real comfy already...feet on yr sofa.. :) ....and a lot less tired! :) Any beer in the fridge? ...just trying my luck ;)

Lifetime companions...hmmm..what aspect of it....tricky topic you know. I guess after all I've seen and experienced, I tend to agree with mistipurple in that nothing is certain...even in lifetime companions.So I believe u always got to make yrself happy first cos no one can do that for u in the long run. Its too risky and not realistic to find yr happiness totally in one person. If u find a good companion, then its a bonus.

Of course that doesnt mean u dont try to find the right person or dont give yr all in a relationship. Its just that when things dont go well, u still have strength to go on. Plus if u are happy and contented with yrself, its easier to love someone else.

And i have found that things never go as u expect it. Life is full of surprises and so never say things are impossible....a number of impossibles have happened in my life as far relationships go...good or bad depends on how u see it. Again...is anything ever really good...or bad.. :) Confusing isnt it. Maybe I am just a fence-sitter.

Wow...real tired man...been rambling on a bit too long...hmmmm...maybe i better start a blog too like everyone else. Err....any chance yet with the beer.. :)

Have fun Angel...life's short!

_butt said...

actually I think...

not wrong at all.. kids to take care of you when you grow old? those were the days.. not anymore now.. I mean, it's not necessarily be that case..

Anonymous said...

Ermm... your fren may get a nasty surprise in the future, is what I'm worried about. More and more common these days are stories of people dumping their parents into Old Folks' Homes. Never visit one summore. Own chewren so heartless!

Children making us old? Go ask your fren or any parents: they can explain quite well. ;)

angel said...

Dear (hopefully-no-more) tired_man,...
No no, thank YOU for the much longer reply you gave me! Yes, do make yourself at home. Nice people are always welcomed here! ;)

Beer, you said? It's your lucky day! Heineken? Carlsberg? Or Sangha beer? :D

You know, reading your comment, I can't help but feel like as though I've read you somewhere before... have I? Your style, I mean your writing style, looks very familiar although I can't pinpoint from where I could have read you before... some kinda deja vu... hmmm...

I agree totally on your thoughts about life companion, relationships, happiness etc. That's why nowadays, I'm quite particular about what makes me happy NOW, not 'in the future' because we do not know what's gonna happen the next hour! Unlike some of my friends who plan so many years ahead.. but of course I'm not saying planning ahead is no use but... well, I'm pretty sure u know what i mean, yeah?

I also think that life can be very simple. Only we humans tend to complicate it... :)

Rambling? Nah, none at all! Love it & appreciate it very much! And yes, yes, YES! You really should start a blog! Then can share-share maaa... ;)

*keeping fingers crossed*
*brings out a bottle of chilled beer*

Cheers! Here's to Life! ;)

angel said...

Dear butty,...
Of cos I not wrong ler... :P

But wouldn't it be fun to hv a baby like your profile pic? ^^

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Dear plink,...
I hv another thought... what IF people don't know how to take care of the elderly people and feel that it's better to hv some 'professional' help? But of cos if no visit wan means they are teruk mya anak lor...

Anak-anak buat kita tua? Okay, I go ask mama & papa when I see them next week *wink wink*

mistipurple said...

..st.o..ps hands fr.o.m insis.ti.ng to post comm.en.t..... but ca.nn.ot tah.an liu see, cos n.ex.t one is.......

mistipurple said...

69!!!!!!!!!!!
YEEEEHAAAAAH!!!! *grins*

Anonymous said...

Dear Angel

Wow! Spoilt for choice....beer i mean. Hey, is it for real....or u just kidding me?

Hmmm....have we met before? ;) Your really, really blur photo looks a bit like someone I know...scary .........Nah....maybe not. Too coincidental....then again, who knows.

Well, I guess some people do have similar ideas and views...which translate into similar styles. Yes? No? So you probably heard all that before from someone somewhere in your past. Sigh...no more original la. How to start blog then?

And speaking about starting blogs...i think not...too tired :))
Well, I can always share, share your blog ma. Just write long, long comments ..... and probably drive everyone else nuts, since they came to read yr blog. Besides, i am already comfy here :)

Hmmm...are we competing to see whose reply is longer? How can a guy compete with a lady when it comes to quantity of words? :) Kidding la! :)) Actually, i am normally too tired to write so long....unless the topic captures my interest...and unless someone is challenging me to write longer and longer replies. :)

Cheers...to a simple life! ;)

....and to more free beer

*help myself to more beer*

P/s Am not alchoholic,ok...!

tired_man said...

Dear Angel

I must be really, really tired....forgot my name above.

Thanks again for the beer!

tired_man said...

Dear Angel

I must also be drunk...spelt "alcoholic" wrong....sigh.....

angel said...

Dear misti,...
Y o u r e a l l y h a v e g o t
I T C H Y ...
H A N D S !!!

:P

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Dear tired_man,...

Whee! Another long comment to reply!

Choices are good, no? ;) I kid you not...

Oh dear, oh dear... it'd be a totally pleasant surprise if you were someone I know! But yeah, I doubt we have met before... or...? One thing for sure, sometimes this World can be really REALLY small!

*shudders*

What I meant by your writing style is literally, writing style, not ideas/views. You see, in my work, I deal with 'editing'. So, I am able to, how to say, recognise people's writing style.

Haha, no more original? Are you like me? I strive to be... errmmm, different? ;)

Well, I started reading blogs almost 3 years ago and after interacting with these group of people in their blogs, nearly half a year ago, I 'succumbed' and started this blog. Mostly was because of him. He pestered me to start my own blog cos I was kinda 'squatting' in his
blog, with my comments sometimes longer than his blog entry! Haha!

You know, long long comments don't drive people nuts. Instead, it attracts them! Dun believe? Try and see and I'll tell you that more than 4 pairs of eyes (provided you are not wearing glasses) must have read this reply. Hehe...

I actually understand what you mean by feeling tired... In fact, I feel the same too most of the time, but.....

Haha! Nope! We are not competing whose reply is longer. Just that sometimes when I'm in the mood, I could be a bit lor sor... hope you don't mind my long windedness :)

Ooohh... u cannot stand to be 'challenged' eh?

Well, you are welcomed here anytime... be it for the sofa... or the beer... or simply reading my ramblings...

Yam seng! Yes, as simple as Life can be, please :)

ps: You were not really that tired... you just forgot :)

pps: Haha... maybe you are a chocoholic then?

tired_man said...

Dear Angel

That was a quick reply...has the competition spilt over to see who is faster too??? :)

Hey! How did you know about the chocoholic thing.....?? Thats personal. :)

angel said...

Dear tired_man,...

Haha!
*shocked*
I did not expect you to be back so soon actually. Just couldn't resist giving u the reply first before I went out just now.

Ahhh... a chocoholic... and I bet you are a workaholic too since you are so tired all the time... aye? Nay?

Getting Up Close & Personal, aren't we? ;)

tired_man said...

Dear Angel

So scary.... ;)

angel said...

Dear tired_man,...

We should stop meeting like this... hehe...

tired_man said...

Dear Angel

...then how else would we meet... ;)

angel said...

Dear tired_man,...

Same ol' place? ;)