Sunday, April 13, 2008

Love Actually... A Fishy Story...

My SugarCane + Lime drink

Since in the previous entry, we talked about Infidelity, today I found an interesting entry @ VioletLim.com. Oh, who is Violet, you asked? She's the co-founder of Lunch Actually, Asia's first lunch dating company ;-) Anyone interested? Can go try! Kinda like DinnerForSix but it's lunch. Nope, I have not tried it. I need meh?? :P

Violet wrote about Love, In Theory. She found a theory by Robert Stemberg, who is a psychologist and a psychometrician (wah, sounds very terror!). He came out with the Triangular Theory of Love, which is pretty insightful.



Lemme copy the whole thing from wikipedia lah!

The three components, pictorially labeled on the vertices of a triangle, interact with each other and with the actions they produce and with the actions that produce them so as to form seven different kinds of love experiences (nonlove is not represented). The size of the triangle functions to represent the amount of love - the bigger the triangle the greater the love. The shape of the triangle functions to represent the kind of love, which may vary over the course of the relationship:
  • Nonlove is the absence of all three of Sternberg's components of love.
  • Liking/friendship in this case is not used in a trivial sense. Sternberg says that this intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.
  • Infatuated love is often what is felt as "love at first sight". But without the intimacy and the commitment components of love, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
  • Empty love: Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love, in which the commitment remains, but the intimacy and passion have died. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love and develop into one of the other forms with the passing of time.
  • Romantic love: Romantic lovers are bonded emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal.
  • Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. Sexual or physical desire is not an element of companionate love. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship but a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.
  • Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion, without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.
  • Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the “perfect couple”. According to Sternberg, such couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they can not imagine themselves happy over the long term with anyone else, they weather their few storms gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other.[1] However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. "Without expression," he warns, "even the greatest of loves can die" (1987, p.341). Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.

Itulah dia... too complicated to comprehend? Never mind! I copy part of Violet's entry for you also!

Passion, Intimacy and Commitment, in no particular order. He describes passion as physical and sexual attraction. Intimacy is the closeness and the connection, especially in communication. And commitment is easiest describe as marriage. And the strongest relationship is a relationship where all these aspects grow at the same rate like an equilateral triangle.

If there is only passion, that is called infatuation.

If there is only intimacy, that is called friendship.

If there is only commitment, that is called empty love.

If there is passion and intimacy, but no commitment, that is romantic love.

If there is passion and commitment, but no intimacy, that is fatuous love.

If there is intimacy and commitment, but no passion, that is companionate love.

If there is passion, intimacy and commitment, that is the most ideal of love… consummate love. :)

Many marriages, as time goes by, end up in ‘empty love’ as the passion is gone, and the intimacy too wanes. And the only thing holding the marriage together is the commitment.

Or in other marriages, the passion is there… but there is no communication. The couple simply does not grow together, and their paths hardly converge.

All the best to you, you and you!


At first, not many fishy came...
there were 2 other people sitting around the 'pool' with me.


And yesterday, my First Experience @ the Fish Spa... I didn't go to the 'popular' one @ Pavilion. I went to this Sampuoton Fish Spa at Merchant Square, somewhere near Tropicana. Saw this spa when passing by NKVE and told myself, die-die oso must try.. at least once... What's iVerdict you asked?

Ya Allah! OMG! Cinders and Ashes! I cannot tahan!!! It's way way WAY too geli, too ticklish for moi! And I paid RM60 for those fish to tickle my soles for half an hour.. Yes, the rate is much higher than the one @ Pavilion, I believe... And to think they have treatment for the whole body also for RM150... gosh, no way, Jose!!

When those two people finished, oh dear... I was attacked in large schools!!
Betul I kenot tahan... I kept moving my feet, scaring 'em away.
But each time, they came back for more
-_-

Never felt so geli before... For RM60, next time I shall go for aromatheraphy...
or have someone rub my back for free...
;-)

NB - All pictures in today's entry (above) were taken with the Nokia N70. This is to prove that N70's 2Megapixel also not bad, okay.. Becos got so many people puji iPhone's 2Megapixel cam's pics in Someone's blog ;P *waits for comments regarding the pics* Haha...

Last, but not least... for Dearest Daddy...

58 comments:

mistipurple said...

Happy Birthday Angel's Daddy!!!!

day-dreamer said...

Wah, so cheem de theory... lols!

Eee... I see the fish I also rasa geli...

Happy Birthday, Angel's daddy!

And last but not least, happy weekend! *hugs*

L B said...

Happy Birthday, Daddy Angel!!!!

Oooo, next time you go, get some home so you can have fresh ikan bilis with your Maggi Mee.. yes? LOL!!

L B said...

BTW, that triangle just reminds me of threesomes..

L B said...

And Long Live the N70!! LOLOL!!!

L B said...

*I wish someone would place a skeleton's leg in amongst those fishes and post a pic*

Kopi Soh said...

A very Happy Birthday to Angel's daddy. Dun forget to make birthday mee suah for him ok?

jjmm said...

wahahah, i wonder how many ppl paham cinders & ashes!

"Or in other marriages, the passion is there… but there is no communication. The couple simply does not grow together, and their paths hardly converge."

bagi pompuan [in marriage samore], no communication mana bleh ada passion? acerli few yrs ago jjpp got teach me a fundamental in love, i.e having goodwill. as long as u still have goodwill to ur partner, then u can still continue the journey together and make it work...and as long as u still have goodwill to ur partner, then u won't consciously do things that will hurt him/her [cth: cheating].

see that fler? even tho sot sot dei a bit oso still can talk some sense geh! kakaka!

ehonchan.com said...

baqhahahahahahahaha!! i think lack of sleep ar u come out with all sorts of funny phrases! lol!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANGEL'S DADDY!! :D

how much is the other pavillion fish spa?

must bring my mother go.

Misha said...

happy birthday to Jiejie Angel's Daddy

Anonymous said...

either kaki ko busuk atau kotor, tats y ikan tu came back for more, kan?lol. yg nail polish engko tuh dah habis dimakannya ker? nanti ko mempertosikkan ikan2 tu ngan nail polish ko lak...spoil the environment. hello cik abang, try to b more environ frenli lah skit. per la, iklim kiter dah jadi havoc, hutan dan kekurangan, ozone dah tipis, orang guna polisterin ....sigh, boring.

anwyay, sementara ayak masih ader dengan musim hujan kiter nih yg giler babi, spllLLLLLLAAAAAASSSSSSH.



happy songkran sayang!


bdkbkk

Anonymous said...

alahhhh, dah bincang pasal environ lak, dah lupa pasal bapak ko yg hakka tuh. tell him :-

chhok ni sin yit fai lok.....hehehehe, entah betul tak intonasi saya nih...lol.

adrian said...

Wah, ur feet so sexi leh! :P

For RM39.97 (rounded up to RM39.95), I gip u a foot massage & back massage. :P

Add another RM2.99, I nibble u like the fishies like dat. Good deal or not? :P

Happy bday to uncle Angel.

Chev said...

Itu Love mia Theory too long liao, read till I pening-pening :P

I wanna try the fish spa too
wonder if it's available in Penang?

Yeah, The Nokia N series photo are quite good. Your photos taken with N70 are quite clear too. I always use my Nokia N73 as camera for taking candid shots too.

NOKIA N SERIES ROCK, and MUCH CHEAPER than iphone. hehehhehehhe...

Chev said...

i too cheong hei in the comment till I forgotten to wish Angeles' beloved daddy Happy Birthday.

Happy Birthday Uncle :)

kat said...

Cinders and ashes!! Bust my boiler!! :D I'd rather pay RM60 to eat them fish, not for them to eat me.. heehee

But what does it do actually?? How is it beneficial to have fishies nibble your feet leh??

Hepi Birthday, Uncle Angel.. :)

Lei wah sei moh?? Again I think of adrian when I read the Love theory!! kakakaka!!

King's wife said...

Happy Birthday, Papa Angel!!

Aiks! Why so the expensive? The one at Pavilion is rm38 per half hour wor....anyway, do once already enough hor? I'd opt for a foot reflexology anytime.

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zewt said...

when they first started, i was asked to go 'free of charge'... to boost the company's profile. i dislike the idea...

i never like the idea till now. they manipulate ppl's needs and low self esteem for profit... i think.

nyonyapenang said...

Happy Birthday to Angeles' Daddy...Nin-nin yeow kam yat, soai-soai yow kam chiew!

angeles said...

Dear misti,
Thankiss Thankiss!!

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Dear day-dreamer,
Theory is not really that cheem... it's our mind that's too lazy to think! Hahaha.. :p

Really la, I never thot it'd feel so geli.. :(

Thanks for the wishes and you hv a stressfree weekend too! *huggies*

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Dear L B,
Thankiss Thankiss!!

Fresh ikan bilis?? Haha, no way!! I dun like any ikan bilis! Be it fresh or dried!

Triangle 3somes... U think Suzi is game? Kakaka.. then u hv to find another.. Suzette?? Kkekeke..

Haha.. my N70... dun wan to live so long ler.. I oso want new phone hehe...

Skeleton's leg, then what the fish gonna nibble woh? Dun think they'd come near oso leh...

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Dear kopi soh,
Kamsia kamsia... xxoo.

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Dear jjmm,
Oi, so lewat belum tido?? Cinders and ashes, all the mommies & daddies will know ;)

Goodwill? Muhibbah? I dunno if that's a fundamental in love.. if got chance I let u know :p

Eh, yahor.. can tok a bit of sense I suppose.. oni blur a bit at other times nia... I wish you all the goodwill in this world.. ;)

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Dear ehonchan.com,
Eh, where got funny phrases? U mean cinders & ashes ah? Thomas the Train's favourite phrase ma.. :p

Thankiss for the wishes to my daddy!

The Fish Spa @ Pavilion is oni RM36 or 38 per half hour nia... your mom can tahan tickles ah? Really ticklish wan u know... the one at Pavilion got alot of ppl go.. so, less fish for each leggy.. hehe..

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Dear misha,
Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear bdk bkk,
Eh eh... all kakis hv to cuci dulu before masuk the pool, ok...

Amboi... u used magnifying glass to see my pics ah?? Terer, can see my nail polish summore.. I lazy sapu lagi.. maybe later I go sapu again.. eh? environment friendly? Alah, itu nail polish jer, ader kaitan dgn environment ke?? Jangan tipu, tau...

Yelah, sekarang nak hujan again.. memang dah giler the weather..

Tima kasih daun keladi for the hakka wish.. nanti gua kasi cakap sama bapak..

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Dear Adrian,
Eh, dun lie lah, ok.. where got sexy?

Wah... your price very good neh! Got 'package' wan ah?? Yalah, good deals must sign package wan... one time where got enuff?? :p

But the nibbling part, u nibble the foot or somewhere else ah? Or both?? :p

Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear Chev,
Memang the theory is very memeningkan.. :p

U sure u want try the fish spa ah? Aiyah, no nid la.. let Ah Boy nibble u enuff liao.. free summore kekekeke..

I think it's available in Penang.. no ah? I thot winn went there with the family during CNY? But I not sure where.. or was it in KL ah? Aiks.. I not sure liao...

I think your N73's camera better lor... my N70 was the first from the N series, kan? Old liao lor...

Kkakaka.. ya!! Nokia N Series really cheaper than iPhone! Haha.. but I oso want the iPhone.. how? :(

Thankiss for the birthday wishes!

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Dear Kat,
Haha.. yes, you'd know abt cinders and ashes and boilers!

What does the fish do ah? Said to help eat the 'sei pei' (dead cells) woh.. I overheard one of the bosses talking to another customer saying that this treatment started from Turkey it seems... and was used to treat some kind of skin disease.. aiyah, forgot what disease liao... and then later on, after more research, they said that this gaffa (or was it gaffu?) fish got medicinal benefits woh.. I din go and read it up since it's sooo ticklish and I dun think I wanna do it again lor...

The guy at the checkout counter asked how was the treatment, I said it was too ticklish for me. He then asked if I felt 'good' nearing the end of the treatment, I thot for a while and said, "I dun think so lor..." Haha.. he must hv been very disappointed to hear that... oh, and he has a Koh Tsu Koon look! I forgot to mention in my entry haha...

Thankiss for the wishes!

U day-day think of Adrian... mm tung lei.......... hahahaa..

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Dear king's wife,
Yalor.. I oso a bit shocked when I heard the price.. but the Pavilion wan got a lot of ppl... less fish per leg... haha.. but little did I know that more fish is not really so 'song'... Yalor, once is enuff!

Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear zewt,
So, did you go for the FOC treatment? Why did u dislike the idea actually?

Manipulate ppl's needs and low self esteem? I dun quite understand.. the reason I wanted to try was because I thot can feel veli syiok like foot reflexology.. but aiks, make me more tension oni when the fishy went nibble nibble and some oso bite until a bit sakit leh...

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Dear nyonyapenang,
Kamsia for the wishes!

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Brad said...

Are you hinting Brad to gip liu backrub tonite? Ok... ON! ;)

kyh said...

eh my sony ericsson takes better pix! KKKK :P

wud love to try that fishy spa too.... hahaaaa. got too many dead cells on my soles liao!

and happy bday angie dad!

L B said...

Trinity says she wants to come here, but can't, so I am saying hello for her..

L B said...

Trinity says she still wants to come here, but still can't, so I am still saying hello for her..

L B said...

Trinity misses you.

mama of 2LittleFellas said...

before all else ... must wish sai pak,

"HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANGEL's DADDY!!!!"

Wishing you good health and happiness always!

mama of 2LittleFellas said...

2nd..... cute feet!! love how you posed them... so childlike ... so playful!

mama of 2LittleFellas said...

ok. the triangle thing needs more thinking.....

where do i fit in???? mmmmm ....

mama of 2LittleFellas said...

i just checked my finger and the ring is not there!!!!
ha! i took it off again..... or did LB swallow it???? haha!

rinnah said...

Round and round I read the article about love and I am not really too sure what it's trying to drive at. Let me go read it again tomorrow, k?

Happy Birthday to Daddy Angel!

Trinity said...

Darling Angel.. I hate fish! I will never do that! Have to pay as well?! Arrgh I won't do it even if you pay it for me.. no thank you...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANGEL'S DADDY!! When you will post a tribute to dad, Angeles? Interested to do that?

Oh, I want to thank you to that kind MailMan PostaItaliana...

Aiyah Nonya said...

I saw the fish spa in Pavilion. Read from some one's blog that it is quite shiok.
Did not try it either here or in KL. Too chicken. :)

So , your heels, soles must be baby smooth by now, eh ?

angeles said...

Dear brad,
Angie is waiting everynite ler... ;)

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Dear kyh,
Actually, I think u r right! I've seen SE's pics and they are very clear! :P

If u not sked of geli, then u can go try the fish spa.. if sked geli, then better dun waste $$$ ;)

Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear L B,
Thanks for the iHello and iMisses messages.. so laam..

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Dear mama of 2LittleFellas,
Thankisskisskiss for the lovely message! My daddy will be veli happy! :D

Haha.. cute feet? Happy Feet? Playful is my middle name haha... and childlike, ermm.. I'm a BigBig Child.. kekeeke... with BigFeet too.. ahem...

Where do you fit in the triangle? I can tell you.. you are INSIDE it! ;-)

Ha? No ring again? Finger swollen again? Preggie again??? Kekekee... I tried to korek from LB's mouth but......

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Dear rinnah,
I dun blame you.. I think it's difficult to comprehend as well! So, just read Violet's entry :)

Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear Trinity,
Ooooh.. u are here!

U hate fish? How come? Why? What did Nemo do to you? Or Jaws? O.o

Thankiss for the wishes! Also for the offer to do the tribute.. I'm sucha baaad writer.. maybe next time? Thankiss again!

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Dear Aiyah Nonya,
Shiok is definitely not the word for me to describe the fishy treatment lor... to me is not syiok...

Haha.. my soles not baby smooth yet.. but it's a bit smoother than before lor.. or prolly it's my imagination... haha..

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_butt said...

*tumpang geli for Angeles*

think I'll skip that :P

wah, didn't know got theory for this too!

oh and HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Angel's dad! :D

Oscar's Mommy said...

happy belated birthday uncle angel...

wei, i am going to try out the fish spa in bangsar this sat with my gf... and i know i am going to be so geli till i die and no chance to take pic and post!!!! gosh, i wish i didn't promised them to do it! ish....

have a nice week ahead angel.

Huei said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANGEL'S DADDY!!! =D

ooooo that geli meh? i really feel like trying!! heheheh aih..speaking of spa..i wan spaa!!!!!

bongkersz said...

happy belated birthday angel's daddy!! :D

eh, can try submerge yourself in the pond to have full body massage by the fishes not? :P whole body become smooth smooth.. kakakakakakka!

mudpie said...

waaaa i love this theory thingy .. a preparation before it it becomes an empty love heheheheh

happy birthday to angeles papa!!!

Andie Summerkiss said...

Angel's Daddy, Happy Birthday!

He is so lucky to have such a witty daughter, huh.

Anyway, back to the fish treatment. I would loveee to try. It looked so so much fun. I couldn't believe that you don't like it though. But that fish seem kinda hungry. Needs more customer.

I am trying to imagine you getting full body treatment. Must be so funny!

EliteVillain said...

happy belated birthday to Angel's daddy!

laundryamah said...

Happy Birthday to Papa Angel!!

i oredi foresee it's going to ticklish lor that fish spa...bruff ppl one la..foot reflexology better la..

angeles said...

Dear butty,
Hehehe... thx for tumpanging my geliness.. :P

The theory is a bit pening to read.. but it's a theory oni.. practical wise, I dunno liao...

Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear Oscar's Mommy,
Haha.. u going for the fishy spa? Good luck neh!!! I was soooo geli.. really tak boleh tahan lor..

Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear ah huei,
I think better go for foot reflexology or body massage than this fish spa... more worth it.. but then u can go try at Pavilion's lor.. cheaper :)

Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear bongkersz,
I will NEVER do the full body fish spa treatment! No way I'm gonna let those fishies feed on my white white body haha... I'd rather let someone else do it :p

Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear mudpie,
Haha.. ya ya, make sure you & your partner stay INSIDE the segi tiga ohh... ;)

Thankiss for the wishes!!

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Dear Andie Summerkiss,
Thankiss for the wishes!

Me witty? Haha.. slightly crazy.. but now that you mentioned, my dad is a funny guy too! ;-)

The fish spa treatment is way way too ticklish for my liking... and at times, they can bite too! Ouch! Haha.. yeah, I suppose the bloop bloops were kinda hungry that day cos not many people...

Haha! No way I'm gonna let those fishies nibble my body!! *nightmare.. haha*

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Dear EliteVillain,
Thankiss for the wishes!

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Dear laundryamah,
Yayaya, memang got a bit bruff ppl that fish spa... I memang dungu kena bruff lorr... but nehmind lah, I learnt my lesson liao :D

Thankiss for the wishes!

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cibol said...

I'm bekkkkkk!! .. wah sexy kaki .. ha ha ha .. u got bling bling on ur feet .. ur post a bit long, so I see pics and comment based on pics and all of the comments here only, like most of us usually do .. ha ha ha .. I saw got mention hepi buffday, so I wanna wish also .. ur daddy rite? bah .. semoga berbahagia selalu hendaknya!

angeles said...

Dear cibol,
Hello there! Long time no see!

Eh, my kaki sexy or my bling bling yang sexy?? Actually, not very bling oso la.. I just love anklets :)

Yup, yesterday was my dad's burfday! Thank you for the wishes!!

suituapui said...

Belated birthday greetings to angel's papa!!! Lots of blessings for good health and happiness!!! Hah!!! If dat bongkers go in whole body, dunno where the fish will attack hor??? LOL!!! Wah! He post on love, u oso on love! What's this love-love hah??? Hahahahaha!!!!

angeles said...

Dear suituapui,
Thank you so much for the wishes!

If Bongkersz went into the pool the fish will definitely attack his head first!

Eh, his botak head lah.. which head u thinking about?? Hahaha..

I post this regarding love first wan leh.. he posted later.. what's happening ah you ask? Yeeee... where got ask people so terang-terang wan?? U go ask him lah.. ask him why he post abt Ashton Kutcher.. u know who Ashton Kutcher is with, rite? *wink wink* hhahahaha :p

Angel Eyes said...

So takut lah the fish.. and so geli as well!

Happy B'day to Angel's daddy!

eastcoastlife said...

Dearest Friend,
Get yourself listed on http://millionbloglist.com/index.php?title=Main_Page!

I have to tell my other friends, will come back to comment on your post. Sorry, I hope you don't think I'm spamming. hehe.....

Good thing must share.

Mr. Goober said...

i never knew love was so complex...need to recheck current status >_<

hey i heard bout that fish spa in tv few weeks ago..so does it really do anything to u except being ticklish??

angeles said...

Dear angel eyes,
Memang sungguh geli!! Tak boleh tahan...

Thankiss for the wishes, babe!

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Dear eastcoastlife,
*waits for my million dollah...*
Thx! Hehehe..

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Dear Mr. Goober,
Haha.. yeah, love is indeed complex.. I hope you'll stay INSIDE the triangle, yeah? :)

The fish spa treatment is said to help us "get rid" of dead cells on our soles woh... I dunno whether to believe it or not actually... but after the treatment, the soles feel kinda soft.. but only for a few days, I guess :p

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Tyler said...

I've always had a thing for girls with ankle bracelets *coughs* =D

dreamie said...

*Happy Belated Birthday to ANGELES'S DADDY
.. Many Happy Returns of the Day *

waa u so brave, macam fear factor liddat !! .. kkk

Freethinker said...

wah.. u also went to the spa ar.. damn geli lar.

Cocka Doodle said...

Happy belated birthday 'ngoi fu'...oops! I mean unker angel! LOL

Dearest Angel, so we are currently at which side of that lovey-dovey triangle jek?

Aiyoh...this is the 3rd time I'm commenting on this post. The earlier 2 dunno why din appear geh.

angeles said...

Dear Tyler,
Hey there stranger.. long time no see! :p

U hv a thing for girls with anklets.. I hv a thing for anklets.. hmmm... I'm baaad in math! Haha..

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Dear dreamie,
Thankiss for the wishes!!

Hahahaha!! Fear Factor!! Hahahaah.. siu sei ngor :p

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Dear Freethinker,
Yeah man! This one I agree with you 149%!!

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Dear Cocka,
*piak piak*
Oi, who your 'ngoi fu' ahh?? Hahaha.. But thankiss for the wishes! Your ngoi.. oops.. my dad would be very happy to know that I didn't meet u earlier kakaka...

Haha we ah? U tell me lor.. I'm lost liao... ^^

Din appear must be becos u comment too hamsap jor... :p

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may said...

Happy Birthday, Angeles' Daddy!! oops, a little late...

how come these days blog so much about L O V E, huh? huh? yeah? got something to tell me? ;-)

I also geli watching those feesh around your feet!

angeles said...

thankiss maymay!!! better late than nevah! ;-)

haha.. l o v e is lovable... i love Love... tell you ah? ahem... haha... dunno... *act blur* ;-)

Indeed the fishy all very geli... *shivers*